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Are you really hearing from God?

Or is it just wishful thinking?  Or your own wish to be somebody important?  Of significance?

Are you deceiving yourself,  thinking it is God when deep down, if your honest it’s just a means to get what you want.

Too many times now I have heard people say God told me.  This means either from themselves or from someone else who prophecies falsely.

What do I mean?

After a talk I gave a woman desperately want to borrow a DVD I had used for an illustration, she talked me into lending it to her.  Even though she promised to return it,  it did not come back.  I am a generous giver but I needed this DVD for future talks so I asked her to give it me back.

The following week she arrived with a different DVD saying God had told her to give me this one instead.  It was an outright lie because I already had that one and did not need it.  I should have confronted her on it but did not.  At best she was deceived and at worst stole from me for her own selfish gain.

Similarly I want to challenge all this stuff I hear about how God has called you to greatness!  Really?  Yes, I know God can do anything but can you?

Did you hear God tell you first you were going to be CEO of a big company and then someone else confirmed it?  Since then have you taken steps to line yourself up for that promotion.  Are you qualified to do it?  Do you have the experience and knowledge?  Or is it just wishful thinking for significance on your part.

Your significance should come through knowing the Love of God in Christ Jesus and that He died for you personally because He loved you that much.  That you are now a child of God. Not from position or pre-eminence or power, that is the world’s way of thinking.

Have you put in the time and effort to train yourself up, get the qualifications, studied for exams if needed?  Decided to be a person of excellence in all forms.  Are you on time for that appointment? Do you keep your word?  Is your mouth and your money in order and your family?  Do you keep your house and possessions neat and clean?  If you don’t look after your things you will not look after another’s well.  Do you return what you borrowed?  Do you follow through?

Realistically why should you be promoted if you have not proved you can do the job? God is not going to tank the company just to bless you, because you want significance without the hard work.

Even if you have gift for example a great voice, you still need to excericise it, learn how to control your breathing, produce your voice, train it etc.  Build a reputation and a following.  Just like an instrument it takes practice.

So Why are people going around telling folks like a prophecy you are called to be great,!  NO WE ARE NOT!!!!!!!!  Jesus said: “If you want to be great then become like a little child”.  He did not mean without knowledge!  He meant with simple faith and a teachable spirit, one who will learn from others and grow and mature just as Jesus did, in knowledge AND favor of man.

Like Jesus we  are called to humbly serve others with love.  If God in his wisdom wants to elevate us he will do so.  But we are not all leaders,   There are many ignorant people who believe because they have been told you can do anything through Christ and Yes you can; but in the realm of calling your gifting.  Use your talents.  Get education, knowledge and wisdom, study to show yourself approved.  Your future is not just going to fall out of heaven one day when you have not lined yourself up for it.

Your character matters too.  Have you worked through your issues so you can lead if that is what you are called to.

If you are leader – do you have followers?

If your an evangelist, have you spoken to people to Jesus and have been people been saved?

If you are a prophet, have you trained and kept a record of how accurate you are.  Even prophets in the Bible were trained in the school of the prophets.  Are you accountable for what you say.  Or do you just go around saying whatever comes into your head?  Are your motives pure?  To speak correctly on behalf of God your motives and heart should be squeaky clean!  No hidden agendas or selfish motivations.  If your a prophet it is a serious business you represent God’s mouthpiece, it should be accurate because God does not make mistakes.  God is really hard on his true prophets it is a very hard life.  You are trained in the pit of life.  Acronym:

P- prophet

I- in

T – training.

Because its hard.

So please stop going around giving people false hopes and vain imaginations as to what God expects of them.  It leads to tremdous heartache and confusion when your word does not happen.

One lady came to lunch with me and told me she was an Evangelist.  I asked how and where she witnessed.  She never had.  She had never talked to anyone about Jesus and neither did she want to.  I asked why she thought she was an Evangelist?  Because someone told her she said!

Get the picture folks.

Time to speak out.  Having faith does not mean you lose integrity, truth,   Rather you above others should seek to serve, be truthful, fear giving false words,  God will hold you to it.  You will have to account for every idle word you have spoken.

Not everyone is called to be a great name, or hold a top position, in fact most are not.  That why those positions should be filled with knowledgeable, insightful, educated, faith filled people with the experience gained over time.

Your job is to love your neighbor as yourself, to set a great example and be the best you can be with your security, hope in Christ Jesus not from worldly Kudos.

Thank you.


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Some practical tips for speaking

when asked to speak have a point.

It is an imposition to expect people to come and hear you if you turn up and “wing it” .People are worth your respect and their time matters!

Too often people turn up and waffle.  Christians say I/m just trusting the Holy Spirit.  That’s all well and good, but first seek God for a message.

Have a beginning, a middle and an end.

Then a summary.  Repeat the point, pull it all together in one paragraph.


Have a point and make it and make it again at the end.

Don’t assume people will know what you are talking about even if it is your testimony, make your case, paint your picture.  Deliver your point.

It is best to write it out before hand then if God moves and you are led to go another way ok.   But be co herant!  For the sake of those listening.

Let us know what you are talking about and talk about it not something else.

Don’t go from one to another like so many rabbit trails.

Have a path, a goal, a subject in mind and carefully craft it.

Start at the beginnning with the Title, keep it in front of you to keep your mind focused that’s where your going.

Then build point by point towards fleshing the Title out.

Have an end.

Here it is another way:

Your title is what happened to you, or the subject you wish to talk about it.

Seat it in what happened.  Give it a foundation, so it not nebulously let to someone’s imagination.

Flesh it out why it mattered

End with what you did about it

Summary what you learned from it.

Hope this helps if not for your sake for the sake of your listeners!



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Jesus liberates women and provides for them!

In the Gospel of John chapter 8 verse 20 Jesus was in the Temple in Jerusalem in the Treasury.  Here they kept the taxes and free will offerings for those in need.

Where in the Temple was the Treasury situated?

IN THE COURT OF WOMEN!!  Jesus was spending time with women in their area!

Why?  Because he values women.

By spending time with women, letting them become part of his group and later after his resurrection from the dead they became apostles too He was showing – demonstrating that women are of worth and value.  They are a treasure and He is their treasure.  Also that He will provide for them.  He was there with the free will offerings for the poor.  Who were the majority of the poor?  Women!

Christianity is the only faith that values women. Why because God our Heavenly Father made a way for women to be saved through the love and sacrifice of Jesus Christ for women to be honored, loved, valued and provided for.  To be born again, adopted into Father God’s loving family.  The adoption price, Christ’s blood freely given.  No charge or price for you to pay.  Simply believe and receive.

Again Luke 21: 1-2 Jesus praises the widows mite offering.  Where did this take place?  Again in the women’s court.  So we can see that Jesus made a habit of being concerned for the wellbeing of women!  He is a liberator of women.

Women you have an eternal spirit within you, that means that part of you will live forever, that’s a long time.  Jesus will give your heart a home,  provide for you.  In fact one of His names is Jehovah Jireh, this is God Provides.  So take heart all you valuable women.   Jesus sees and knows your worth, He knows your value.  He paid the price with His own blood to buy you out of sin, death and hell.  You are blood bought and paid for.  Believe it, take it into your heart.  Just have faith.  You belong to Him because He loves you, esteems you, will provide for you.  He will make a way for you when there seems to be no way!  He is concerned for your well-being!  You can still talk to Him, He is alive and hears you.  Ask Him to send His Holy Spirit into your heart and to help you.  He will.

Jesus has good plans for you and a good future safe and secure in His love. His Kingdom will come and rule in your heart and life if you ask Him.   He is the real lover of your soul none other can fully satisfy.  Only Jesus Christ.  He is the source of your life and will fill your heart with living water.

Take heart , there is recourse for you.  There is an advocate for you, there is the protection of a loving Heavenly Father for your heart through the sacrificial love of Jesus Christ.

Women if you need help write a reply.

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Did you know you are walking amongst ….

Watching the world go by this morning I saw a King and a Queen walking past my window.  They were humbly getting on with their lives not aware I was watching.  How many of us watch people but do not really see what is in them?

Amongst your daily routines are those who belong to a Royal family.  Who rule and reign in life with dignity, purpose, success, who are game changers and life makers!

Let me tell you today as you wonder about your life and what I am saying here?

The King is flying His fly high announcing His residency.  He is not off in some foreign land unavailable to his children and subjects.  No He is right here, Present with you.  Do you know who that is?  Can you see beyond the every day things to what really matters?

YOU MATTER!  YOUR LIFE MATTERS.  There is a plan and purpose for you life.  One that is good and of value to you because the King values you!  Yes, you have value and you are deeply loved with an everlasting love!

Take time today to look around you and look for the Kings and Queens who rule and reign in life.  Those whose Father is the Lord God, The King of Kings, Lord of Lords and His children are the Royals amongst you!  Ask them how and why they have faith?  Ask them why they have love people and have hope in this barren land.  Ask them how you can have it too.  I’m sure they will only be too pleased to help you.

Just be humble, if your life’s a mess and you need help get it from the King of Kings, through the Lord Jesus Christ.  His children will help you find restoration for your life and help you find help for your families, friends and loved ones.  The Kingdom of God filled with righteous, peace and joy.  I know you want some of that too.

The Kings children have learned the secret of a good life!  Seek them out and let them help you!

I am one of them and I would love to dialogue with you.

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The Diamond that nobody noticed!

I walked past a Diamond in the rough today.  I walked past it yesterday and the day before and the day before that.  I noticed it struggling to grow in an adverse climate. I felt sorry for it, but did nothing to help either for my part.

That is how Diamonds are forged under great pressure over many many years.  They transform starting off as fallen trees buried in the ground, eventually they metamorphose in Coal.  Then hundreds, maybe thousands of years later under extremes of pressure they change again into a Diamond in the rough.

Unless you know what to look for you might miss them, they do not look like the Diamonds we have in our jewelry!  They don’t even shine until they are cut, faceted and polished then given to us to make us sparkle and shine to impress others or as an investment.

Maybe you too are a Diamond in the rough?  What do I mean?

You know you have a heart of gold and you’d do anything for anybody.  But somehow your in the wrong place at the wrong time and get into trouble, even though you were trying to do a good thing?

In all the pressure of your life you know that deep down inside you are of worth and value but others don’t see it.  Why don’t the people around you see who you really are?  A beautiful strong valuable child of God with a mission and a purpose and a calling?

From one Diamond in the rough to another:  God sees you and made you the unique strong person you are today.  You have a job to do that not many others like you can do.  That’s why you are different.  You go places others will not.  You takes risks others will not.  You don’t mind loving the unlovely because you are not polished either.  You are merciful, kind and compassionate because of what you have been through whereas others have not.  You are indeed special to God and the world needs you!  It may not know it, or show appreciation but it does need YOU!

One day in the right place and the right time God will polish you up and make you multi faceted shinning in the right setting to best show you off.  They will wonder where you came from and where you were hidden.  You were being formed in the secret places to be made ready for what you were put on this earth to do.  Never give up, never surrender, push onwards and upwards.

Be blessed unpolished, unseen Diamond.  God is at work in you.  Embrace the pressure, don’t give up, much is being accomplished as you grow and metamorphose. Keep on keeping on and you will become a polished, multi faceted diamond for all to see.


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Walking through the Big Gulch in this gargantuum Spring.  It seems as if a Spring Fever has taken over – or should I say a Spring Ferver of new life.  Everything is fresh, pretty, growing madly, wildly, extravagantly.

The wild flowers, Woodruff, Pink Campenula, Nettles, and BLEEDING HEARTS all grow in a voluptuous display of rioteous Spring.  The Bleeding Hearts are all mixed in amongst other flowers and leaves all Vying for splendor.

It struck me that life is often like that.  In amongst everyday routines, in the good and the bad, all around us Bleeding Hearts lie.  Do we notice them?  Occasionally maybe, but mostly we all go on with our own lives not noticing the Bleeding Hearts all around us!

There is SOOOOOOH MUCH PAIN in this world.  People are desperate to be heard.  To listen to someone is to value them!  People want to matter, to be validated.  Last Tuesday I said “Hi how are you” to a man in wheelchair with one leg!  He was amazed that I spoke to him!  “Thank you for speaking to me!”  He said.  I found out most people just walk on by!  His heart was bleeding for validation.  Even that small act from me was huge so it seemed to him.  It made me sad.

What can you do to see the Bleeding Hearts all around you?

Acknowledge, speak to, listen, encourage, give, and whatever else God lays on your heart to do.

On the other hand I also noticed that the Bleeding Hearts were in the midst of life going on around them.  I wanted to say to them,  “come on, get up.  Life is for living.  Yes, you are wounded, yes, you are hurt, knocked down, but don’t stay there.  You deserve more.  Find the help you need.  Be bold and courageous and make a start no matter how small and choose to live again.”

I made these same choices after a bad marriage and divorce and lots more stuff.  My choice was “am I going to let this be my life?  Staying defeated and depressed?  Or am I going to fight back?”  To get better or to stay bitter?  If I stayed down whatever brought me that low had won.  I did not want that.  I deserved more, my children deserved more, this was not their fault.  I sought out people to help me, got and took good advice.  Bought the books, read and put the advice into practice.

My faith in Jesus helped me to forgive, – no it was not easy!  But God helped me. I began to grow, to live again.  It was a process as my heart bled all over the place, in appropriate places and inappropriate places.  God put wonderful Christians in my path to help me who were patient and kind to me.  God led me on a path of inner healing, peace and restoration as I worshipped Jesus and read the Bible.  True lasting healing begun to take place.  I want this for you too because I know it works.

From one healed heart to your Bleeding Heart.  Look around you and live again.  The best heart surgeon is Jesus Christ who created you and the world and can put you back together better than before!  


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Don’t be a Potatoe Head -LOL

My heart bleeds for the state of the world and in particular America where I currently reside.  It seems so confused as to what is right and what is wrong.

I am reminded of a child’s game I used to play then with my children later on called Mr Potato Head.  It involved a basic plastic Potato Head shape with holes in it so you could stick on a variety of arms, legs, eyes, moustachiose, ears, mouths and so on.  You  choose the outcome of the look of the Potato.

However, people are not Potato Heads.  They have a body, spirit, and soul.  The soul is made up of mind, will and emotions.  People have a gift given to them at birth to use in life for example, they may be artistic, musical, scientific in their approach to things.  They may be writers, crafters of words or story tellers, medical healers, carers of people, farmers , lovers of animals, dreamers, visionaries and so on.  One only has to watch the child to see the way they should go.  Even at an early age one can see the evidence of a gift by simply observing what the child likes to do.  You can see by the fruit the person bares what they have inside them that is coming out.

You can also see each person has an inner longing for something greater than themselves.  They long to be fulfilled in their lives and start a quest to find the answer to that longing.  This will often take them along many different roads, from listening to certain kinds of music, trying different types of things, like sports, or smoking, sex., thinking bad love love is better than no love, not realizing sex and love are different things.  Some join gangs, or a group somewhere to try and find their identity.  The quest to find out who you are and be relevant whilst you have life is a very strong drive within each person.  We long for significance, for belonging.  Everything is permissible but NOT everything is beneficial.

So we search.  In recent years though  it seems to me the world has gone a little mad.   We’ve tried everything our parents did, or our historical culture showed us and still feel unfulfilled. In trying everything they become a confused Mr Potatoe Head, sticking bits on here and there, taking bits off!  Thinking it makes them ‘cool’, significant, purposefull.  Instead they find confusion, loss of peace, sometimes inner torment.  In sticking bits on and taking other bits off that were meant to be there they end up in no mans’ land, finding that the grass is not greener on the side!  Sometimes right is just right and wrong is just wrong, it is that simple.

Whether it is politics, trying different drugs, education, business, the arts, self mutilation, or weird and wonderful adornment and so on.   Just because a person can come up with something new, or can find many ways to bend the rules to life does not mean it is, healthy, right or good.

Each person was born with a spirit and eternal being inside them created in the image of God.  This never changes and lives forever.  This is what cries out inside of us to belong.  We also are born with a conscience, that is an innate sense of right and wrong.  As the years go by if we ignore and ride rough shod over our conscience to fit in, it becomes seared, hardened and no longer works correctly.  The fruit, evidence of that is that we no longer know what is right and wrong!  So we give in to every latest trend, fad, whether evil or good.  Our palette, our taste for life becomes jaded, by such a huge smorgasboard board of options to titilate our senses, until they become overextended, and need extremes to give any thrill at all.

The fact nontheless remains, we are still human beings made in the image of God.  We have dignity, worth, value, a sense of right or wrong.  Life can still be simple and wonderful.   We are not Potato Heads that you can stick bits onto, or take bits off.  That is not the grand design of the human being.   There is a plan and a purpose for our lives. Yes, we can put men on the moon, roam the galaxies, but we the human race have NOT changed in our identity and our basic needs, for good relationships, belonging, security and love.

Just because some laws are old does not necessarily make them obsolete either.  There is a blueprint for the health and wellbeing of human beings and it was put together by their creator, Jesus Christ.  The Bible is a blueprint for healthy living, good morals, great relationships, healing both inner and physical.  The world has had it’s greatest success when following it’s laws.  Our cultured civilization was garnered successful living from the Bible and worked well for centuries bringing progress, adventure and success.

So let’s get back to basics and not throw the baby out with the bath water of confusion that is filling our world.  We are not made to be Potato Heads, adding or taking away parts of us, either physically or emotionally, or mentally.  Let’s get back to the source of Wisdom.  The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom.  The Bible is our earthly manual for a good healthy life.  We’ve tried the Potato Head way and it is not working for the human race.  People are shooting each other, killing our children, making themselves into the Potatoe Head game.

We are beautiful amazing creations of a loving God who created us.  Let’s get back to basics and follow the blueprint of the designer who made us.  Then we will find success, peace for our souls instead of torment and confusion.

No more Mr Potato Heads please.  Be a wise head instead, have some common sense.  Thank you.